Are First Dates Worse Today Than In the Past?

In the age of swipe right or swipe left, people are going on more first dates than they did in the past. In many instances first dates are treated more like 20 minute “meet and greets” instead of an opportunity to put your best foot forward towards a relationship.  I recall going on a first date with a guy I met from an online dating app. He showed up for our date, which was at a well-known coffee shop, in his greasy, dirty, work clothes. He explained to me that he didn’t have time to go home and change, and since this wasn’t a “real” date anyway, he didn’t see a problem.  Needless to say, there was no “real” date.

Below are some first dates that didn’t go as planned:

  1. Lizzy, 26

I went on a date set up by a mutual friend. I thought it was going fairly well, but then he went to the bathroom. I waited 5 minutes, then 10 minutes, then 20 minutes. He left. I had to call my friend to come pick me up and I never heard from him again. It was so humiliating.

  1. Kevin, 25

I decided to meet up with someone from Facebook, who claimed to have been in my high school graduating class. She said she remembered seeing me, and she was very pretty in her Facebook photos, so I couldn’t believe I was unable to recall her. When we met up she looked nothing like her photos. I even walked passed her a couple of time because I didn’t recognize her from the photos on Facebook.  I’m not trying to be mean or shallow, but damn! Girl could have gotten a jig as a makeup artist and used her powers for good, and not deceiving unsuspecting dates. She had used angles and filters to manipulate her appearance and it was almost offensive that she thought that it was okay to blatantly lie to people. I finished the date hastily and blocked her from my Facebook page.

  1. Trish, 35