Ask yourself this question “Do I want to get back with my ex because I truly love him?” Or are you in love with the IDEA of that person?
Should an ex stay in the land of Out-of-Sight-Out-of-Mind for good? Or are they worth bringing back into your reality? Well, the best way to answer that is by finding out whether your reasons for wanting to get back are healthy or not.
First, you need to understand that, in general, people tend to romanticize the past. It’s easy to downplay the not-so-shiny parts of your relationships, especially the breakup. That’s why you should consider the possibility that you’re looking back at the relationship with nostalgia-colored glasses.
It’s human nature, who wants to remember all those horrible times when you fought? It’s natural to push uncomfortable thoughts to the back of your head, but you need to deal with the discomfort nevertheless.
Otherwise, you could just be sticking your hand into the same emotional hornet’s nest that left you stinging not so long ago.