Don’t fret if you’ll be single this Valentine’s Day
If you are single, Valentine’s Day can be depressing. You may feel that your lack of a romantic partner means you are a failure, or that you have no hope for finding love. You may be reminded of old romances, forcing you to relive the failure of those past relationships. If you don’t have a date for Valentine’s Day, don’t despair. You can still enjoy the day on your own. Here are four good reasons singles shouldn’t be sad on Valentine’s Day.
1. Love is for everyone.
Romantic love is only one aspect of love. Just because you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend doesn’t mean that you aren’t loved, or that you don’t love others too. Consider your closest family members and friends. You love these people, and they love you back. Spend Valentine’s Day with another person you are close to, and remind yourself that warm, fuzzy feelings of appreciation aren’t exclusive to romantic couples.
2. Valentine’s Day is fake and highly commercialized.
Valentine’s Day only exists so that businesses can sell expensive products to eager couples. After all, there’s no real reason to celebrate romantic love on one particular day. Realizing how artificial Valentine’s Day is can make you take the holiday less seriously. Though sometimes cynicism can be damaging, being a little skeptical about the value of Valentine’s Day can be a very good thing.
3. Your worth doesn’t depend on a relationship.
Being single on any day of the year, much less Valentine’s Day, doesn’t mean anything about your identity and value as a person. Defining yourself by your relationship status is psychologically unhealthy and will only harm your happiness. Take pride in the person you are — your accomplishments, abilities, and character. The fact that you are single is just one aspect of your life. Focus on the reasons you have to be happy about yourself instead.
4. Being single has its advantages.
It would be ridiculous to claim that being partnerless is a bed of roses, or that being single is wholly better than dating– but claiming the reverse is just as absurd. Being single means more time for yourself, fewer responsibilities, and much greater autonomy. Want to take a spur-of-the-moment trip? If you’re unattached, you can just go, without consulting anyone. Single people have more chances to practice hobbies and pursue new interests. Being single means being independent — so enjoy your freedom.
Valentine’s Day can be an example of the negative effects of peer pressure. On any other day of the year, you might not care that you are single — but on Valentine’s Day not having a romantic partner can feel like the end of the world. Instead, remember the reasons why being unattached on February 14th isn’t so bad, and celebrate a happy — and single — Valentine’s Day. – Carlton Ryan