“There is no passion to be found in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living” – Nelson Mandela —
If you’re in a romantic relationship that just doesn’t feel right and you feel like leaving – but you’re scared to…
Because – what if you won’t find another guy like him? Or, what if he’s The One?
Or maybe you’ve been single for some time. Desperately needing someone to be with and thinking of jumping into the arms of the first guy who’s attracted to you (no matter what level of quality he is).
It’s time to think again.
It’s normal to be afraid of being alone or having that unbearable feeling of being un-loveable. Settling is an unpleasant and depressing word, too. And the people around you might urge you to lower your standards and not to be “too picky,” which definitely doesn’t help.
If you do give in and settle down before you’re ready or before you find the right match, you’ll always have that ache of discontent.
There’s a saying:
“Being alone is always better than being with someone who makes you feel alone…”
New research conducted by Stephanie S. Spielman shows that the fear of being single is an indicator of settling for less in relationships – the decision to stay with a partner who is wrong for you. Her groundbreaking study, discovered that the fear of being single predicts when women will settle for less in romantic relationships. It’s not surprising by any stretch, but the correlations is hugely important to you.
Furthermore, her study showed that individuals who report being fearful of being alone will stay with unresponsive, less attractive partners rather than face the possibility of having to move on.
Here are some signs that you’re settling for less than you deserved: