Even the best relationships go through periods when passion seems to wane. In fact, you might well buy into the myth that sex in any long-term relationship naturally becomes boring or repetitive. The good news is that there are plenty of things you can do to rejuvenate life in the bedroom. Here are eight suggestions to get you started.
1. Let go of old assumptions
Fun is the key ingredient required to spice up your relationship, and you’re never going to be able to have fun if you’re too busy panicking about how much sex your neighbors are having or thinking that you need to look like a model to get your partner’s attention. In addition, you need to give up the assumption that a sexual rut means you no longer love each other. For some people, the mere act of relaxing about the issue of sex opens doors to fantastic new ideas about intimacy.
2. Explore your partner’s body
When you’ve been together for years, it’s easy to assume that you know everything there is to know about your partner’s body. However, you can learn a lot if you deviate from your usual sexual routine and start exploring new places. This doesn’t necessarily mean immediately reaching for a double-ended dildo, either. For example, soft kisses down someone’s back can be very sensual, and gently stroking a person’s scalp has been known to produce pleasurable goosebumps.
3. Have sex in new places