Friends, Lovers, or Somewhere in Between

At some point in your life you may have contemplated entering into a “friends with benefits” relationship. You know the kind of relationship where you rely on a close friend for sexual fulfillment, until the right person comes along.

It sounds simple but this type of relationship does work for some couples, but only if clear-cut ground rules are put into place before the benefits begin. Here are tried-and-true guidelines for keeping things clear between you and your new FWB (friend with benefits). If you follow these rules you may be able to have your cake and eat it too.

1. Set Clear Expectations

You must discuss what you expect out of the sex you have with your friend. That includes telling him that you do not want to be his girlfriend, and you do not want to feel obligated to do anything for him. The sex will only be about the sex, and not about the friendship or it turning into a relationship.

2. Pay Attention to Emotions

Many women can’t help but attach themselves emotionally to their sex buddy. While this is perfectly normal, it’s a disaster in the making for the situation. It’s important to keep your emotions in check when you have a friend with benefits. As soon as you feel yourself growing fonder of him, it’s time to re-evaluate your friendship status.