You love your boyfriend. When you first started dating, he was the perfect guy but now that the honeymoon phase is over, you’ve realized that some of his habits are driving you nuts. You don’t want to break up with him because despite his irritating habits, you still see him as the father of your kids. Thankfully, you don’t have to live the rest of your life miserable with him because we have some handy tips on how you can cope with him. But first…
Is it a bad habit or is he disrespecting you?
Can you tell if he’s disrespecting you or if he’s just testing your boundaries? What do you consider disrespectful? For instance, if he takes a dump while you are taking a shower, would you consider that disrespectful or just a bad habit? If you feel disrespected, then you have to ask yourself if you are willing to stay with someone who disrespects you.
How to cope
Release those endorphins
If you know you are about to get into a heated argument with your boyfriend, just shut up and go for a run. You might not know this but going for a run (or performing any other sort of exercise) helps you release endorphins and improves your mood.
This will be beneficial for your relationship. Think about it. Arguing with your boyfriend won’t solve the problems in your relationship because:
- In an argument, both of you are angry and unreasonable
- You are so focused on getting the last word in that neither of you listens to the other.
But when you go out for a run or a walk, you give both of you a chance to cool off and think just for a moment.
Don’t be as petty as your boyfriend
Your boyfriend might be having his own problems and the only way he knows how to deal with them is to pick a fight with you. Don’t fall into this trap. The moment he starts acting some type of way, get out of there and come back when he is ready to talk and reason like a mature adult. Just don’t be as petty as he is by arguing with him.
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