So I met a guy a few months ago. He says he wants to date and have it hopefully go further. He is VERY busy (he’s not just saying that, he really is swamped with work and gets very little sleep and tells me about it.)
Communication is very difficult and I have not seen him in months!!! I want things to go further but I’m at a loss for what to do here.
We talk fairly regularly…I initiate emails or texts often (bad, I know, but I’m afraid I’ll stop hearing from him!) He says he has interest but things are hard. I’m so frustrated and it’s taking a huge toll on me.
I know that if a guy is seriously interested, NOTHING will keep him from making more of an effort and pursuing. I’ve tried everything here. I’m afraid to pull away because I’m afraid he will be so busy that he won’t notice or care.
WHAT THE HECK DO I DO?!?!
I’ve dated guys since him and he’s the one I want. It’s driving me crazy. How do I get him to make more of an effort and problem solve?
Or is he just sadistic and stringing me along even though it hurts me? I’m clueless here. Thanks, Carol
First off, I can assure you that he’s probably not sadistic.
The fact of the matter is that we often don’t realize that most people only act in self-interest – even if that self-interest hurts people around them. You already have the keys to your answer in what you told me, so I’m going to hit them here really quick…
1) He is VERY busy (he’s not just saying that, he really is swamped with work and gets very little sleep and tells me about it.)
I have to ask – is this a special situation, or is this the way his life will probably be for the foreseeable future…?
Because while you DO want a man who is ambitious and works toward his goals, you also need a man that can pull back and balance things out.