Do you find yourself constantly searching for love, but never able to find what you are looking for?
Do you frequently complain to your friends about how “All the good ones are married”?
Are you tired of being alone, but FRUSTRATED with the dating scene?
I want to propose something to you right now that maybe you will disagree with initially… but I URGE you to keep an open mind and continue reading.
Ok, here it is: Your inability to find love is not a problem with the number of potential partners out there, it is a problem with YOU.
Specifically, your OWN mind is holding you back from going out there and finding real love.
Believe me, I’ve been there. I used to be the QUEEN at sabotaging my own relationships, before they’d even really begun.
For years I put my lack of love down to ‘unluckiness’ and ‘guys always turning into jerks’ after we started dating… Until eventually, I realized that the common factor was ME.
I wasn’t CHOOSING the right guys for me. I wasn’t putting the right SIGNALS out there.
And I was so busy thinking about being REJECTED all the time that I actually ended up PUSHING AWAY any half-decent guy I was dating.
I don’t want you to get stuck in this same mindset, as it only leads to pain and heartbreak.
Because the truth is, if you don’t believe that you are worthy and deserving of love, you will be unable to find it.
And if you believe that there is no man out there for you, you will never find him.
Your INNER BELIEFS are holding you back from finding love.
We all have developed inner ‘truths’ about ourselves and our love lives… hiding deep within our minds. But the thing is, often these ‘truths’ aren’t truths at all.
Rather than being based on accurate reality, these inner ‘truths’ are formed through our thoughts, perceptions and past experiences – our OWN interpretations.
And our subconscious mind sets about to continue to PROVE these inbuilt theories to ourselves. It literally works to try to make our thoughts match our reality.
So when these theories are negative, they can SERIOUSLY hold us back from finding true love.
Here’s a quick exercise to identify what some of your ‘truths’ may be about love:
First of all, I want you to think about your ideal partner and relationship. Imagine all the positive qualities your dream man would have and how you would interact with one another.
Be detailed and specific about what you want, and write this down on a piece of paper.
Now think of all the reasons why you CAN’T or WON’T have this amazing relationship you’ve just imagined.
Why can’t you have this loving relationship with a great guy? Write down any reasons you can think of.
Ok, now take a look at the reasons you’ve just written.
What you’re looking at is all of your DYSFUNCTIONAL theories on love… all of those self-limiting beliefs that have been born out of past negative relationship experiences and low self-confidence.
And these are the theories you’ve been trying to PROVE to yourself all along, instead of going out there and trying to find the love you desire.
It’s time to DITCH these beliefs, and start going for what you REALLY want.
Well, first you want to practice loving and nurturing YOURSELF. Eat healthy, get active, have fun doing the things you enjoy, and spend lots of time with the people you love.
An improvement in your self-confidence will help you to realize that you truly are a CATCH and there are men out there just waiting to meet you.
Second, you want to practice VISUALIZING your dream relationship in your mind, often. Let this image replace any old, negative thoughts.
Think about all of those great character traits you want in a partner before you go out on a date, or go to places where you might meet men.
You may just be AMAZED at the men you start attracting, with your new-and-improved, love-focused mindset. by: Brooke Ryan