So you’ve dated a couple of guys for some time now and you can’t really seem to find a guy who wants a long term relationship with you. You decide to take a step back to try and find out what the problem could be. As you sit curled up on your couch watching reruns of Sex and the City an “aha” moment pops in your head. You’re thinking “Mr. Big and Carrie Bradshaw aren’t taking things to the next level because Carrie is dating an unavailable man”.
Now you know what to do; you will stop dating unavailable men. Yeah, if only it was that easy. If you are dating unavailable men, it’s because you too are unavailable. You attract what you are. Still in doubt? Here are telltale signs that you are an emotionally unavailable woman.
- Available guys aren’t that interesting to you
You want what you can’t have. Available guys are boring and you don’t think they are amazing. Okay, so maybe they ask you out on real dates, they bring you flowers, they pull chairs and open doors for you and they genuinely would like to know you better but that doesn’t appeal to you. When a guy shows you affection, the first thing that comes to mind is “desperate loser”.
If you feel this way about available men then there is something wrong with you. Here’s why:
You think you are unworthy of true love and if someone looks like they want to get to know you, you subconsciously consider them to be a threat. Work on loving and accepting yourself and those available men will start becoming interesting.
- You are looking for Mr. Perfect
He has to be tall, has to be a billionaire, has to live in Hollywood, he has to look like Boris Kodjoe, he has to read your mind, etc. You are not attracted to normal guys. You are so stuck on what a perfect guy should be that you can’t give normal guys a chance to show you real love. Perfect guys only exist in three places; Mills and Boon, Telenovelas and in your dreams.