Do you cringe every time one of your friends get engaged? Do you wonder “How in the hell did she find Mr. Right and I’m still single?”
If you’re still single, you may wonder what you’ve done wrong or why you don’t deserve the love everyone else seems to have. Being single is not a stigma or a reflection of your character (for most of us at least). Everyone is single at some point in their life. Here are four things you should think about if you’re still looking for Mr. Right.
1. You keep dating the same type of man
If you’re not having any luck finding a boyfriend who lasts, you might be choosing the same type of boyfriend over and over. You might be attracted to a certain type, but if you’re not having success, it might be time for you to date different kinds of men. Don’t commit yourself to only one type of person when dating, because you will miss out on meeting other great people who might be more suitable to you.
2. You’re playing hard to get
You don’t need to be available at a man’s every whim, but you also don’t want to play too hard to get. By doing this you will frustrate and annoy a man who is trying to date you. He will only try for so long before giving up and moving on. If you play hard to get too much, you can easily give a man the impression that you’re not interested in him. If you have a habit of playing hard to get in order to get a man to chase you and prove how much he wants you, it’s time to make yourself more available.
3. You’ve learned a lot of lessons
If you haven’t met Mr. Right, don’t feel bad about it. Years of dating and relationships have taught you lessons that will help you in finding the right guy for you. It takes time and experience to learn what you’re looking for. When you were 20, you may have thought you wanted to marry a rich doctor, but now that you’re 30 you might realize you need someone with a less busy schedule. Don’t be sad that you’re still single when you have all of these helpful lessons and experience to take with you when you do meet the right man.
4. You scare men away
If you are anxious to get married and have babies, you might be scaring men away. It’s important to know whether the man you’re dating wants those things, but you don’t have to make them the focus of the first date. This will cause a man to think that you’re impatient and want to do these things quickly. Don’t pressure the man you’re dating to move the relationship ahead too fast. If trying to rush things is a habit during your early dates, rethink the topics you bring up and try something new.
When you’re single and looking for that special person to share your life with, the worst thing you can do is obsess about it. If you don’t want to be single, don’t berate yourself for not having a steady, long-term relationship. You may only have to change your way of thinking to find success in dating. In the meantime, concentrate on doing things that improve your life and makes you happy. – C. Brown