Three Ways to Get Your Man to Listen to You

If love is the foundation of a relationship, the keystone is communication. One reason for the failure of a partnership is the perception that men are not good listeners. There are ways to insure that this doesn’t become a problem in your relationship.

This first bit may be a little hard to understand: but sometimes to men, it’s like their woman is speaking in a foreign language, and they need an interpreter. Finding a song or film which illustrates how you feel about a situation and sharing it with a man may help him to understand. Men are notorious for separating the facts of a situation from the emotions that usually accompany it. So an external representation of your internal thoughts or feelings on the matter will help him to pair the two and open the door for further discussion. For example, a romantic song about being alone with the one you love will open the door for a suggestion for an evening away.

If he seems distracted when you speak, that doesn’t always mean he isn’t listening. It can however be a sign that he has other things going on in his mind that he hasn’t processed yet. Men are simple creatures. Trying to fit 10 pounds of information in a 5-pound brain, you have to expect something will be lost along the way. A little patience in this instance can go a long way. When asking if he has time to talk, saying “When you have time, there is something I would like to talk to you about” works best. Then sit back and wait for him to sort through the clutter and make space for you.