Why Do I Keep Attracting Creeps?!

Ugh, not again!!!

People often remark that they keep attracting the same kind of relationship. It’s a new guy but they all inevitably cheat on them!

First: Accept That Only You Can Change Your Situation. You can’t change the other person.

Irked WomanWhen we see repetitions in our situations, we can choose to see this in different ways. The best way to deal with it is accepting that you can control this, even if you can’t control the guys.

This is the first step. Most folks that come to me through a coaching program or workshop need a lot of support to get here. They’ve chosen to believe that bad things happen to good people, that repeat experiences are just coincidences or “life”, and that they’re powerless to do anything. While I understand this viewpoint (been there, done that!), it’s thankfully one I’ve chosen to move past. And, it seems, so have you.

If you’re still in the mindset of powerlessness, that’s okay too. We’ll talk more about how to get out of it in future pieces, just know that a lot of what I share here might prove challenging, if downright uncomfortable.

What Merry-Go-Round Are You On?

When we have a partner in our life that cheats, it’s a symptom of a lot of other things: that we aren’t creating healthy boundaries, we’re not loving ourselves, we need some self-esteem support, and we’d rather focus on someone else than our own needs. Phew! Sound about right?

If this doesn’t sound about right, take a deeper look. When you think about one specific relationship, what comes up? What do you tell yourself about why it happened, what happened, and what it all means? Write those things down, because we’ll come back to them shortly.

Recognize Only You Are Responsible for Your Own Happiness